Oh hey there,
How's your week been?
So, I moved back home from London to Bournemouth and... gosh - what a week! Friends, let me share with you a few small pieces of sage advice which I have garnered from my week of transition.
1. Do not plan your move the day after a 4-day weekend of training in Psychotherapy, where the content is focused on childhood.
2. If, once your move day is planned, they announce a train strike, do change your move day, rather than continuing as planned, using a variety of combined transport options to create a makeshift solution.
3. And, finally, given that your management training workshop schedule tends to be planned in advance, don't try and fit your move day into the one day you have free between delivering sessions, thinking it will be absolutely FINE and you will be completely okay and ready.
I mean... seriously. What a d*ck. If any of my clients suggested any of these things to me, I would tell them to change their plans immediately. However, for me? Nah! It's fine!
Obviously.
Anyway, get through it I did and there was a slight irony that I was delivering a workshop about EQ and the amygdala being hijacked when my own amygdala was indeed, hijacked!
My little perfectionist has been screaming all week - ricocheting between wanting to get all of my work done and get all of the house done too (I'm not sure if I've mentioned how rife my impatience is too?) but slowly we're getting there.
So, there are two topics to discuss this week.
Firstly, sometimes good enough is good enough.
Rest assured, 'stuff' will never stop coming at you and, whilst on the surface the expected metric of success would be 'completion of everything', how about you look at it another way? How about your metric of success is your wellbeing?
If you put that as your primary objective, things can look (and feel, most importantly) very different. And, given we only have one (very short) life, surely our experience should be our focus?
Secondly, it is okay to be scared and, whilst you're in a process of change, at some points, to to-and-fro between answers.
Moving back home has been a huge change for me. I had been in London for 25 years (with a couple of small stints away from the city), and it was embedded within my identity, if not my DNA. I made the move because so much has changed for me over the last couple of years. I hanker for more calm, peace and nature, whilst the fast pace of the city has somewhat lost its allure.
That's not to say it was an easy or quick decision - far from it! My little ambitious ego struggled with FOMO and the thought of not being consistently next to friends, clients and community. However, I also know that during those times of change, our brains can hold on to old ideas like the last bastions of security, trying to convince ourselves that we're making huge mistakes rather than genuinely grabbing the chance to move forward, evolve and grow.
So, friends, if you have a change on the agenda, take that first step - whatever it might look like. And do know that sometimes, when managing a move, your most important role is managing yourself - not just the transition or logistics!
Have a beautiful day. Sending much love from the beach!
Cate x
Oh hey there,
How's your week been?
So, I moved back home from London to Bournemouth and... gosh - what a week! Friends, let me share with you a few small pieces of sage advice which I have garnered from my week of transition.
1. Do not plan your move the day after a 4-day weekend of training in Psychotherapy, where the content is focused on childhood.
2. If, once your move day is planned, they announce a train strike, do change your move day, rather than continuing as planned, using a variety of combined transport options to create a makeshift solution.
3. And, finally, given that your management training workshop schedule tends to be planned in advance, don't try and fit your move day into the one day you have free between delivering sessions, thinking it will be absolutely FINE and you will be completely okay and ready.
I mean... seriously. What a d*ck. If any of my clients suggested any of these things to me, I would tell them to change their plans immediately. However, for me? Nah! It's fine!
Obviously.
Anyway, get through it I did and there was a slight irony that I was delivering a workshop about EQ and the amygdala being hijacked when my own amygdala was indeed, hijacked!
My little perfectionist has been screaming all week - ricocheting between wanting to get all of my work done and get all of the house done too (I'm not sure if I've mentioned how rife my impatience is too?) but slowly we're getting there.
So, there are two topics to discuss this week.
Firstly, sometimes good enough is good enough.
Rest assured, 'stuff' will never stop coming at you and, whilst on the surface the expected metric of success would be 'completion of everything', how about you look at it another way? How about your metric of success is your wellbeing?
If you put that as your primary objective, things can look (and feel, most importantly) very different. And, given we only have one (very short) life, surely our experience should be our focus?
Secondly, it is okay to be scared and, whilst you're in a process of change, at some points, to to-and-fro between answers.
Moving back home has been a huge change for me. I had been in London for 25 years (with a couple of small stints away from the city), and it was embedded within my identity, if not my DNA. I made the move because so much has changed for me over the last couple of years. I hanker for more calm, peace and nature, whilst the fast pace of the city has somewhat lost its allure.
That's not to say it was an easy or quick decision - far from it! My little ambitious ego struggled with FOMO and the thought of not being consistently next to friends, clients and community. However, I also know that during those times of change, our brains can hold on to old ideas like the last bastions of security, trying to convince ourselves that we're making huge mistakes rather than genuinely grabbing the chance to move forward, evolve and grow.
So, friends, if you have a change on the agenda, take that first step - whatever it might look like. And do know that sometimes, when managing a move, your most important role is managing yourself - not just the transition or logistics!
Have a beautiful day. Sending much love from the beach!
Cate x
